Self-Claimed Love

There are two types of rights: personal rights of the person and then there are personal rights of the person's relatives, a person claims to love. 

If you call the person's relative for sake to convey a message and that was your last call to them, is it wrong? 

Like previously, a man from ICF was approached and he was mean. If this person who was called was offended she/he should have showed some kind of annoyed feeling. They seemed excited to hear the person's voice. They both felt comfortable. Was that wrong? 

Anyways, that was the last call to them before this person was blamed and had to call the person again to justify.

Yes, the person who claimed to love can most likely tell the other person not to call because they are different and the person does not think the person loves the other person. 100% fair! The person who was told not to call respects the othe person's desire and understand that they don't love this person who claims to love them. 

However, this other person can choose and have the right to call any other person and others have a right to call them. 

Anyways, the person is not making frequent calls to their relatives. The person just called because the person thought the other person might end up hurting them self, because of the way the person was talking about them-self.

May be, what that person was exhibiting was attention seeking but this person had to take that sign seriously, and had to make sure the person received some kind of help. Person's safety. 

People have all the right to know where and who their relatives are calling, but threatening and monitoring them. Is that right? Interrogating them not directly but making stories to interrogate? Is that right? 

Literally, forcing them not to call and being mean to them? How much human right is that? 

Just to give a little heads up, please read on dementia because the person called, was emotional and expressed they forget things and it was hard and they feel frustrated about it. 

Please again, read about dementia. People getting old they start forgetting stuff they need to be repeated stuff so they don't forget it. Don't embarrass them if they don't give you the right answer if they forget a fact. 

As people are getting old they start showing signs of dementia. 

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/amp/320093

Anyways, when you don't want to be controlled. You should not control others as well. 

Moreover, using a person with some special needs to monitor is the worst you are doing to them. How unhealthy is that? For your personal gains? How much of a selfless act is that? Controlling everyone for your need and to gain loyalty. Amazing I am impressed!! 

Glad that now this person is taught the meaning of love from the person who this person claimed to love. Therefore, now this person know this person was never in love.

This person is now actually more aware, why this person ends up finding needy person to love. Because they desire to be needed and the other person need them. Both just trying to keep the other person around and not being honest.

Moreover, a person who cannot love their own child and was trying to seek help and intimacy while the person was still married and in relationship. Is that love? 

This act shows that person has a dependent personality they need someone to depend on. It is just an analysis not a judgement. 

Some info about dependent personality:

• Difficulty making decisions without reassurance from others
• Extreme passivity
• Problems expressing disagreements with others
• Avoiding personal responsibility
• Avoiding being alone
• Devastation or helplessness when relationships end
• Unable to meet ordinary demands of life
• Preoccupied with fears of being abandoned
• Easily hurt by criticism or disapproval
• Willingness to tolerate mistreatment and abuse from others (DSM)